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- [Writings](https://menshouldtalk.com/writings/) - Hypnotherapy blog for Manchester city centre based hypnotherapist. Expert help with anxiety, confidence, weight loss, motivation, smoking, and more.
- [The outline of our approach](https://menshouldtalk.com/men-should-talk-the-outline-of-our-approach/) - The approach I take to therapy has at its core the three values of Understanding, Acceptance and Compassion. These values as I understand them are explained to the client in the consultation before we set about investigating how these values work through the four relationships men have to themselves. We conclude with a model of
- [Ten things we can all rely on](https://menshouldtalk.com/ten-things-we-can-all-rely-on/) - In these turbulent times the air is thick with pronouncements of plague, the end of days, epochal shifts etc. It would be unusual not to be unsettled by this relentless torment and tumult. However the boffins at men should talk have come up with a list of items that they are utterly certain will not
- [Gauze](https://menshouldtalk.com/gauze/) - What if you woke up one day and got a text telling you that your whole life you’d been seeing people through a fixed gauze? This is not a great text to wake up to but maybe you manage to text back something like ‘WTF?’ But by then your messenger might have spread his charmless
- [Tight Jacket](https://menshouldtalk.com/tight-jacket/) - The tight jacket is a tricky choice for men. If the body is trim and well proportioned the tight jacket shows it to good effect but if if its not then the man can end up looking like he’s in the process of exploding out of his body - right now. Step back! But this
- [Attachments](https://menshouldtalk.com/attachments/) - It’s said in many different religious traditions that giving up ones attachments can be deeply liberating. While it’s certainly possible to understand this the process of giving up ones attachments is complex. Where to start? We might begin with attachments to Queen, State or country. This might sound simple but think a little about what
- [Nothing to hide](https://menshouldtalk.com/nothing-to-hide/) - Commentators have suggested that when phone users share all aspects of their life in public spaces they are taking part in the gradual erosion of British reserve. This is perhaps more complex than it appears: for example was this tradition of reserve a quality that was expressed by all classes or was it perhaps exercised
- [The waiting game](https://menshouldtalk.com/the-waiting-game/) - Everybody waits. It seems hardly worth elaborating but the business of waiting in one way or another is a standard feature of modern life. But how do you deal with that time? The vast majority of people see waiting as a waste of their time. In public they will crane their necks to see what
- [Kindness](https://menshouldtalk.com/kindness/) - It has always been a core part of my business to help men find kindness in their lives. But coming to really understand feeling this can prove very difficult for men. As a result I am often asked this straightforward question - what does kindness actually mean in practise? Kindness as defined by mainstream media
- [Zones](https://menshouldtalk.com/zones/) - Who or what is it that contains you? From our first moments we are mirrored, matched and bonded to others. Our sense of individuality is partly a result of our inherited genetic characteristics and partly a product of the environments we are brought up in. If we are lucky we are nurtured and can enjoy
- [The New Addiction](https://menshouldtalk.com/the-new-addiction/) - A great deal of time and energy is spent focusing on addictions. Alcohol, drugs, gambling and sex are the most discussed topics but there is a more powerful addiction that has arisen over the past 20 years which might even be more destabilising than all of them. The addiction I’m talking about is attention. The
- [The Sniffles](https://menshouldtalk.com/the-sniffles/) - It is disheartening but all too common these days to hear talk of ‘Man-flu.’ You’ll be familiar with the scenario in which a man complains of a sniffle and the surrounding womenfolk all intone that he has ‘man-flu’ and begin berating him for his weakness when the stronger sex battle through daily life despite the
- [Outside/Inside](https://menshouldtalk.com/outside-inside/) - The outsider skulks around the boundary of the group. Those inside look up but all they can see is the outline of a dark dog in a moonless sky. The outsider envies the aggressive familiarity of those inside - the back slapping, hand-shaking, and determined use of well-worn phrases all seem to indicate a cosy
- [Guide to finding a therapist.](https://menshouldtalk.com/guide-to-finding-a-therapist/) - Looking for a therapist is a tricky business. Here are ten tips to bear in mind while walking through the minefield to find the right person for you: Look out for these telltale signs - 1. If his or her wall is peppered with qualifications he may have some insecurity issues of his own. Think
- [The Digital Octopus](https://menshouldtalk.com/the-digital-octopus/) - The digital octopus leaves none of us alone. In every waking moment is the need to follow, reply, post, share, like and tweet. All of our energy is directed into the endless quest to be constantly connected for it is through connections that we are known and not be to known is to be.. what?
- [Invasion of the grey blocks](https://menshouldtalk.com/invasion-of-the-grey-blocks/) - It happened about thirty years ago. At first there were only a few of these little blocks pulling their host bodies around town. We used to think it amusing to see the faces lit up in blue-grey tones as they wandered thorough the cities. ‘What a strange way to live’ we thought as we chatted
- [Attention to…](https://menshouldtalk.com/attention-to/) - Your attention is now a commodity. This is not a new phenomenon. For example television ratings and advertising are linked. If the right people are watching at the right time then the adverts, sponsorship etc are sold at the price to matches the viewers ability to pay. Newspapers and magazines are also designed to sell
- [Destroy the Fortress of Solitude!](https://menshouldtalk.com/destroy-the-fortress-of-solitude/) - Superman knew a thing or two about X-ray vision, changing in a phone box and flying around the world to turn back time. But why did he need a fortress of solitude? One argument is that being the only known survivor of his race Clark Kents’s racier alter ego felt the need to be alone
- [Men and Emotions](https://menshouldtalk.com/men-and-emotions/) - While a great deal is written about the changing forms of masculinity and the ways in which men can address the practical challenges of their lives a great deal more needs to be done before men are ready to accept the legitimacy of their feelings and emotions. One of the greatest struggles we experience in
- [Good Companions?](https://menshouldtalk.com/good-companions/) - What sort of relationship do you have with yourself? It might seem an odd question but it’s worth thinking through. None of us truly wake up alone. Perhaps your days begin with a review of the nights’ dreams (“So there was a trowel, Depeche Mode and Lowestoft – what could that mean?”), a brief check
- [Stop Fighting: You’ll lose!](https://menshouldtalk.com/step-fighting-youll-lose/) - One of the most challenging aspects of life as a human is dealing with our brains. The history of our species is written into this ugly jelly sloshing around in our heads and there’s not much we can do about it. At the root of us is the reptilian brain, that core set of responses
- [Lost?](https://menshouldtalk.com/lost/) - It’s a common experience – that eerie feeling that you cant quite see the way ahead. As the Talking Heads song has it ‘Well – how did I get here?” But what you probably do when this happens is bury the feeling and just keep on keeping on. Here’s an exercise that you might try
- [Monkey Brains](https://menshouldtalk.com/monkey-brains/) - Are you paying attention? Really? Are you? Or is your mind elsewhere already? Have you jumped a couple of lines to see how this ends? Is 300 words too long to wait? If it is and you are then settle down (or at least try to!) what you’re doing is utterly typical and completely in
- [Men and the Gym](https://menshouldtalk.com/men-and-the-gym/) - (Or as Homer once mis-pronounced it - ‘What’s a gyyymm?’) It’s common enough nowadays to talk about the body as a machine. Ever since the early physicians began to examine cadavers they seized on mechanical explanations for how we operate. Yes indeed – the thigh bone’s connected to the knee bone. Such mechanical explanations are
- [Tour Guide](https://menshouldtalk.com/tour-guide/) - Imagine yourself in a new town. You have time to spare so you hire a tour guide. You meet at 9 am and he offers you an itinerary – the local museum, the waterfalls, the historic bridges, the castle etc. You turn up at 9 am all ready for the day. All goes according to
- [Sinkholes](https://menshouldtalk.com/sinkholes/) - Have you seen those sinkholes in Florida – huge gaping spaces where houses and cars used to be? They look as if some giant had poked a huge hole in the ground. It must be incredible for the owners to find that all they had taken for granted has just gone. Sometimes we experience personal
- [Being clever: It’s a young mans game](https://menshouldtalk.com/being-clever-its-a-young-mans-game/) - I don’t know whether you’ve noticed but there’s a lot of cleverness about these days. Quiz shows are packed to the rafters with smart young folk sparking away in exchange for applause and future bookings. And why not? We could all do with a break and these bristling snappy shows provide quips a plenty in
- [Intimacy](https://menshouldtalk.com/intimacy/) - Does intimacy means different things to men and women? Despite the considerable advances made by feminism it remains the case that popular culture offers more time and space for women to discuss their problems with men rather than vice versa. From daytime television to weekly magazines men are often seen as objects of ridicule: daytime
- [Life sentences](https://menshouldtalk.com/life-sentences/) - What’s the trickiest part of meditation? The most common complaint is that it’s so difficult to find the time and even when you do there’s the constant interruptions… Another classic excuse is that ‘there’s just this problem at work/with the kids/with my Oyster card/with my Gilbert O’Sullivan fan club membership etc etc. You know… But
- [Tools](https://menshouldtalk.com/tools/) - Imagine a big man entering the gym. He’s 5 foot 8 inches and 18 stone. He has no kit and has an anxious expression on his face. He approaches one of the personal trainers and says ‘Hi – I want you to completely change the way I am.’ The spry young thing replies “Of course.

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- [B.O.T.E method](https://menshouldtalk.com/the-b-o-t-e-method/) - The B.O.T.E method for Manchester city centre based hypnotherapist. Expert help with anxiety, confidence, weight loss, motivation, smoking, and more.
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